A lesson learnt

Part of my job is to build trust between my collegues. As with any trust, it takes time to build. With a certain middle aged collegue, I had to spend just abit more time, to prove to him i'm not full of crap, i'm capable to doing my job and deliver on my promises.

It's not hard for people to undeliver. One of the many things I always make sure I do, is deliver on the promises I make. If I don't have time, I'll honestly say I don't have time.

During the past 12 months of my job, I've worked very hard to build a good communication, trust and respect with my referring peers. I have tried very hard not to let them down.

This certain middle aged collegue, took alot of my time to build trust. He initially didn't trust me at all and he expressed his concerns with financial planners very openly. I didn't talk myself up to be on his good side, I just told him that I can prove to him that I am capable and I can successfully do my job. Talking is rubbish, actions will show for itself.

I managed to do that, which lead him to send me a referral of great opportunities. An opportunity to assist a department of our bank who were getting made redundant, because their role was moving to India.

What I did wrong was ask my boss for support, because instead of being supportive, he took the opportunity away from me and gave it to some other collegues in the city because apparently the city is too far for me.

Just because the City planners are not meeting their targets and not busy, it really doesn't mean he can do that.

Respect is one of the most important things to me, whether it's at work or my private life. He didn't ask whether it was ok with me, he just did it. It really annoyed the s**t out of me, made me really really fustrated. Mainly because i've also disappointed the certain middle aged man. He passed me the referral because he trusted me and he knew that I would talk to the clients with care. Now, it's going to be dealt with by staff he doesn't even know.

Thank goodness his 20 years plus in the bank and his 5 years working with my boss, he knows my boss better than I. Instead of me apologising to him, he actually called to comfort me, said he knew that I would be feeling bad and told me I don't need to apologise.

It shows that one, my efforts and my hard work is evident, and secondly, i've learnt to keep my mouth shut and deal with situation between my collegues rather than letting my boss know.
Not the usual way of doing things but maybe that will be better.

I've learnt my lesson.

Useless

I've never met a man more of a loser and he can be. I'm definitely not mentioning any names here BUT i'm sure some of you "might" be able to guess who he is.

So, this is what happened during a yumcha catch up with my girlfriend, her hubby, bb, A & I.

I got there first, sat down and got a table.

Girlfriend & family come. She sits down, says hi and sorts out her daughter. Her husband sit down and says nothing.

G: Have you said hi to Diana?

Hubby: silence...

a few mins later

G: Say jor hi mei ar ?

Hubby: a wave and a "hello" that you could barely hear

Then A who came about 10 minutes late appeared, sat down and said Hi to everyone. No response from Hubby.

G: Did you say hi to A ?

Hubby: huh?

G: Tong jor A say hi mei ar ? - a little impatient

Hubby: orh.. hello and a tincy little smile

Throughout the whole lunch, Hubby didn't talk. Just looked around and ate in silence. No expression. The type that even if you tickle him, he wouldn't smile.

Then later.. bb needs to go to the toilet. She looks at her baba and says "shoo shoo". Ba ba didn't react. He just sat there. Then she said it again, and he pushed her to her mum and said "She needs to go to the toilet". Not helpful at all, particularly since he wasn't doing anything at all, but after some nagging, and realising his daughter DID want him to take her to the toilet, he went very unwillingly.

Then, when we have finished lunch. My girlfriend forgot to bring a plastic bag to put her daughters dirty plates. She goes "hubby, can you ask for a plastic bag?" ... he looks around. No action.

5 mins later, "hubby, ask for a plastic bag will you?"

Hubby: Later sin... (but how later can you get when we've just paid the bill)

So I said to A, can you ask the waiters for a plastic bag. A waved his hand in the air, a waiter came in a spilt second and we got the plastic bag in 2 seconds. How hard was that ??

I said to my girlfriend "your hubby's pretty quiet and not very responsive, you talk to him like a baby" and her reply was simply "yeah, he is always like that. Even at home he is like that".

Boy.. I'm glad that my boyfriend isn't like that and I hope that my husband will not be like that either.

Counter Burger - Crows Nest

The burgers here are huge!!! It's fun because you get to choose your own toppings and add in abit of creativity with your burger. Personally, I find it abit too big. I like holding my burgers and biting it from top to bottom. Not a big fan of using a knife and fork to eat a burger.

However.. we ordered a Appie Pie Malt and it's divine!! It's sooo yummy and you can actually taste the appie pieces of an apple pie in it. If you don't go for the burgers (because it can end up being pretty pricey) definitely try their milkshakes.
If they added a touch of cinnamon, it would of been perfect, for me :)

Prayer to forgive those that hurt us

Almighty God,
You have listened patiently to my concerns and consoled me in times of hardship. Let me remember Your presence and love for me when I am called upon to forgive another person for an unkind word or action. You have shown me how to act, what to say, what to do, and yet I sometimes react in anger and find it difficult to forgive others as You so often have forgiven me. Grant that I may recognize this failing in myself and remember Your words and example whenever I have need of a forgiving spirit.
Amen

One Year.

Today marks our one year anniversary. I can't believe how quickly the year has gone. It doesn't seem that long ago when I met Roy at our friends birthday dinner. At that time, I had just come back from Hong Kong and still trying to catch up with old friends. Not expecting to meet anyone, but like people say, things happen unexpected.

For me, it doesn't seem that long, but when Roy and I talked about it today, he said it seems long because we've been through alot. I agreed... we have been through alot.

So back to today. Roy spent alot of time organising today. The day started off with these beautiful pink roses and tulips. I love roses and tulips. Then we headed off to Avenue Cafe for breakfast in Mosman. The cafe was really nice. Really yummy breakfast and really nice coffee.


After breakfast, we went to Zenzara for a 3 hour massage and facial. It was the first time we've had a hot stone massage. It was really good. Before the massage, we went into a rose spa. It was really really relaxing and our skin was super soft afterwards :)


It was such a lovely loving and relaxing day. After the massage, they provided us with a Japanese lunch. Tempura with rice. The serving was so big that Roy and I couldn't finish it but we ate as much as we could.

PRESENT TIME!!

This is from Roy to me :) **note the charms that is dangling** He is so sweet!


And a beanie from me to him to keep his head warm during cold winter months :)


and my first attempt in making Roy's favourite trifle dessert. A lemon trifle.

Today we both had a really nice day. Very sweet. very happy and very romantic :)

Thank you hunnie for making today so special and so memoriable!!